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exhausted mother
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take their help
Holly Shotzman (hjk@centurytel.net)
My son is 4 1/2 years old. He too can not do things for himself. At first I was to proud to ask or even accept help from my friends and family. Now after being with him all the time and feeling like I could just curl up in a corner somewhere, when someone offers to help I let them. It gives them a feel of what I have to go thru each day. I think it even lets them see that he is a lot to care for and so they offer to help more. At first I couldn't let go of my responsibilities so I would just ask if they would go along with me to help. Eventually when I felt that person was capable of being alone with him I would leave him for a while so that I could do all my shopping and misc. stuff and have a little time to just stop and think. I don't know how you have done this by your self all these years. My husband and I work so I do have help in the evenings, but I am a teacher and spend my entire summer and every extra minute caring for my son. I think you are remarkable if you have done this on your own. I certainly would have gone crazy without the help of my friends and family. I hope this helps. Find a friend and begin to "train" them so you can have a little breathing room. God bless you and give you strength.
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